Posts in category grief journey
I Got a Fever Blister for Valentine&#...
Valentine’s Day is over and you sigh with relief. Did you have a feeling of neglect all day and shed tears over the romantic Valentine attention you once had? Or did you rush through the day, your head filled with getting the day over with before your heart noticed?
At this point in your life you might consider yourself lucky if your deceased [...]
Happy New Year???
I nearly ruined Christmas by dreading the new year. It was not too long after my husband died and my heart was still broken and bleeding. Christmas was an ordeal even though my family squelched their pain to try to make a happy celebration.
In fact, we all worked hard the first Christmas without our strong, quiet leader for the sake of [...]
Revisiting Stages of Grief
Revisiting Stages of Grief
Because these are so fluid I hesitate to mention them to you. A Christian psychiatrist, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, explored five stages years ago, and they are still true to a certain extent. The thing is we are all different, and while we will all go through most of these stages to a point, it is not regimented like th [...]
Is Silence Truly Golden?
Is Silence Truly Golden?
“Will you kids quit running and screaming? Can’t I have just five minutes of silence?”
“Please, kids, turn down that loud music and give me five minutes of silence.”
“Honey, will you please turn off that TV for just five minutes of silence?”
A widow knows a lot about silence. Now it echoes through the house with the [...]
Grief–Personal as a Photo
Grief—Personal as a Photo
I’m new to blogging, but I started it as a way to help widows trudge along the grief journey until the trudging turns into a jog. (Yes, it will eventually happen!) And I’ve learned a few things along the way, quite a few as a matter of fact.
I learned shedding buckets of tears doesn’t make you lose weight. I le [...]
Could’a, Would’a, Should&...
If I’d only waked up an hour earlier….
It seems every death, no matter how peaceful or expected, carries along with it some guilt. A sudden death is even more likely to invite guilt on the loved ones remaining. That seems to be the human nature of most people. If we cherished the one who died, we come up with something we could have done bett [...]
Out of Thankfulness, Time to Give-Bac...
Here I am, a happy, content woman, and now I want to show other widows how I traveled that terrible grief journey and become whole again. With God guiding my hand, I will share a travel plan for the journey that worked for me.
Each week I will offer a story of my trek so you may see my tiny, incremental progress. I compared my grief journey t [...]
What does a widow do tonight?
It’s not like I’d never spent a night alone before. Robert used to travel West Texas and New Mexico selling animal feeds and products, and I spent many nights alone. But that was different. In the first place, I knew he’d call before he went to bed, and we’d chat and share our day and the trials and triumphs of the three kids.
But secondly, a [...]
